Step 3 -

renouncing false blame refusal to internalise the abuse if it has been internalised - renounce it. It is NOT a part of you
it was a breach of our will
a violation of our inner being and a wounding of our soul
Jesus Christ has responses /ministry to all of these aspects of csa (Child Sexual Abuse) You may have been in the wrong place at the wrong time but you did not invite the abuse you may have been lied to you may have been enticed but you did NOT directly invite the abuse
you did not consent to the abuse (if you did it's not abuse and you would need to repent of your sin)
refused to be ruled by fear
"Love casts out fear"

pray for healing of the wounds
claim Isaiah 61
Men, if you were abused by a man
he may have touched you , against your will,
in a place which automatically set off a pleasure sensation.
this may show up in teenage or adult life as uninvited and involuntary same sex attraction (ssa) or same sex desire (ssd)
this causes much confusion and some men even question their sexual orientation
It's simple - I am talking to hetro men whoes ssa and or ssd was not genetic, not from birth and not invited
renounce it
it can be a grove - a link set up during the evil violation of sexual abuse
Romans Chapter 12 talks about the renewal of the mind.
simple techniques such as not looking or staring
resisting the temptation to be curious
holding fast to God's standards in Leviticus and Romans Chapter 1 as an anchor,
refusing to exchange the truth of God for a lie.
the key is to renounce ssa and ssd when it surfaces or one has a rush of it.
it can seem to drive or posess you
but confess it
and resist the temptation to act out

so many have normalised ssa
but Christian men know in our hearts that acting out is sin.
This advice is for Christian men who know they are hetro but confused by uninvited ssa.
Men who feel they are homosexual by birth or choice have adequate support services elsewhere. It is not my intention to duplicate what is adequately covered elsewhere.
this ministry is for those of us who feel ssa was induced by child sexual abuse and was uninvited, unwanted.
I am praying for more insights as to how the ssa thought patterns can be broken. Guess the obvious is setting up new thought patterns, the same as any behaviour modification or learning new ways of thinking.

the plain old resisting temptation is also most helpful.
the complication with ssa and ssd is that there are so many voices breaking down our resistance to ssa. Bu we have the right to exist. We have the right to reject it and to refuse to internalise it. We have the right to listen to God's promptings in our conscience and not to be those who sear their conscience.
Interstingly I found that real gays, those who say they were born gay, do not want to be bothered with hetro's flirting with them or men after them out of lust because real gays want intimate relationships.
ssa and ssd induced by childhood abuse by a man manifests itself as flashbacks or as lust or desire for self gratification without concern for the object of ssa or ssd. It is not relationship based. Those who struggle in these ways are not gay.

sadly some more preditory homosexuals and pretend gays
hastle any man with any ssa feelings and taunt us with "you are just supressing/denying it.
They say its just society that creats guilt.This is new age thinking.

I am writing to Christian men who want to live a life consistant with orthodox Biblical morality. with a csa (Child sexual abuse)induced unwanted ssa or ssd.
who are looking to God to bring healing.
I am not here to "cure" "gays" who "came out" and their parents want them to be cured. That situation has its own complexities. It is my belief that such programmes are alleged to have failed because the participants were sent to the programme and probably did not want to change in the first place. Immagine the folly of sending a social drinker to AA !>BR>
I am responding to an expressed need of Christian men for answers,
for restoration
to be free from being dominated by unwanted ssa
for us, Jesus is our answer
and let us not be restrained by societies current norms.
We want to be disciples of Christ
we want to be free
so let us look to Jesus Christ to break our chains
and heal our memories

in other words
once we were overwhelmed by csa
but now we see Jesus calming our storms
He speaks to the trauma of our csa and ssa
"Peace, BE STILL!."

as we progress on this journey together, let us share our insights and scriptures the Lord brings to our mind.
be strong in the Lord
pray without ceasing.

Romans Chapters 6 to 8 and
Galations Chapter 5
may help in the battle
search the scriptures and stand on scriptures

Repenting of wrong reactions. these include: misdirected anger use of alcohol, drugs, tobacco, food etc to deaden the pain in excess seeking comfort apart from God's grace overeating drunkeness drug use smoking drowing ones pain in excessivly loud music too many chockolates etc. are forms of self abuse over indulgance etc